After a certain point "support" stops being supportive and turns into enabling - enabling of his depression, his anxiety, his reluctance to reflect deeply on who he is and what he wants out of life, and worst of all, my "support" ensures his continuation into a career that will not ultimately make him or me happy. Please don't take it the wrong way if he says that a few minutes on the phone is more than he can handle. I just pray daily that no matter what we end up doing we are 30 min or less away from each other. As time has gone by I realized that the opinons of others is not important to me and oddly enough those who did not originally approve have had their hearts and minds changed by the love my husband shows me, our daughter, and the members of my family. It sucks to admit, but I broke up with him after 6 months because I didn't think there was any point if we couldn't be together forever. This lack of inclusion within the general society makes them socially awkward, especially around men. Maybe he found a nice Mormon girl after all. He stated he is in his 30's and established, and incapable of changing…. I never really thought about the sacrifices the wife of a doctor must make. Honestly I'd let things keep going.
No sex before marriage. I am getting increasingly more resentful of the times I think he can choose us instead of residency. Keep me posted, please. Wow just found this blog and for the first time am in mid's feel some support as an MD's wife of 30 years who is socially isolated he has very few friendsgetting despondent, bitter and resentful due to having some expectations which are met with constant disappointment. Part of me wants to say Yes!!. There is no way she will may you without you going to the temple. And I really agree that in any marriage no matter what the professions, each spouse wants to come to a welcoming and communicative environment, they don't want bottled up tense frustration. A grandpa sense of humor and occasional clever line from an old movie go a long way. He hadn't realized it was the same weekend as my birthday, or even that it was a big birthday - 30. They spend so much time together.
I can be part of a church family whether my spouse goes or not. Is it naive to think we could raise our children to fully participate in two different faiths. I'll keep being me and we'll see what happens. We started dating 16 years ago, and both resigned from the church earlier this year. I wish you the best of luck. Mormon children are advised, in their religion, to refrain from dating until they are at least 16 years of age. And that fairly constant theme has some deep implications your girlfriend will have to face.
It is positively shocking. I made a conscious decision to marry outside the church for my own reasons. You might need more than he can give. I would love any advice you can give.
